
New York Time Review
Of all the music-related memoirs due this fall (the release date is Tuesday), Vivian Cash’s is liable to be the most surprising. With abundant evidence to make her case, Vivian Cash, the first wife of Johnny Cash, explains how her role in his life was expunged by the mythology that sprung up around him. Her book, put together with the help of Ann Sharpsteen, vehemently corrects the impression created by “people of the Nashville mind-set, who prefer that I be written out of Johnny’s history altogether..”
Most of this unusual book was actually written by Johnny Cash. After a brief introduction it becomes a string of the near-daily letters he wrote to his sweetheart, Vivian Liberto of San Antonio, during the three years he spent in the Air Force. They met at a skating rink in July 1951, when Vivian was a petite, exotically beautiful 17-year-old schoolgirl. Soon Johnny, then a 19-year-old serviceman, was on his way to Germany. He did not see Vivian again until the summer of 1954.
Vivian Cash died in 2005, after spending much of her life avoiding revisionist versions of Johnny Cash’s life story. With any luck she never saw “Walk the Line,” the 2005 hit movie that presented her as a nagging, ever-pregnant obstacle to his storybook romance with June Carter, who became his musical partner and second wife. The film’s Vivian could not be less like the one described by Cash in love letters presented here.
This book does not include Vivian’s side of the correspondence. Nor does it need to: Johnny’s impassioned dialogue is conducted as much with himself as it is with her. Desperate to idealize his little angel as sweet, clean, pure and holy, he is equally desperate to hang onto her despite the strain of long separation. The letters become both fascinating and agonizing as Johnny Cash creates and then overburdens the wild romantic fantasy that sustains him through lonely years.
At first he swoons over the memory of ruining Vivian’s lipstick and bobby pins. He promises her “oceans and oceans of love and devotion.” And even at this early, innocent stage he tells her everything, no holds barred.
“Honey, I’m the only guy I know that tells his girl about the girls he runs around with over here,” he writes. “I’ve told you everything, and I’m glad we understand each other.” At the same time he expresses a loathing of his buddies’ flagrant sinfulness and promises never to be heedless of what he does. “Baby, I’d trade 100 of girls like that for one kiss from you.”
Pouring out a correspondence so torrential that he says it scares the mail clerk, Cash returns constantly to his greatest fears: drinking and disloyalty. His first lapse into drunkenness is treated as a terrible accident. “I promised my mother I’d never drink,” he confesses. “Believe me, I’m ashamed.” But promises to avoid alcohol are broken over and over.
He complains convincingly he loves her so much it hurts. He repeatedly promises to be forever devoted, no matter what. (”Your little body might be all out of shape from carrying so many of my kids, but that will just make me love you more.”)
He creates a fantasy world as tantalizing as it is unattainable. The correspondence stops when he returns home to marry Vivian and begins tearing their dream world apart.
Quicker than you can say “show business success story,” Johnny’s priorities change. Vivian becomes the mother of four daughters, and he becomes the man skyrocketing to the top. The little Southern family is transported to California, home base for that behavior that Johnny once feared. Vivian blames some of his violent transformation on substance abuse and much of it on Carter, who supposedly once declared: “Vivian, he will be mine.” And then he was. “Let me tell you, it was horrible to be on the receiving end of her determination,” Vivian Cash writes.
“I Walked the Line” is a wildly romantic book, but also a sad and wrenching one, a testament to the destructive power of hopes pushed past the breaking point. Although her narrative sounds almost willfully naive, that makes her book more revealing.
Vivian has what she says is a big secret: that she never stopped loving Johnny, not even after each of them remarried. In his final months, then an ailing widower, he spent enough time with Vivian to authorize publication of his letters.
Cash’s admirers remember him well in that last, painful part of his life. Now they can also picture him as a just-grown man with a very different idea of what it meant to be in pain.
–Janet Maslin, The New York Times









October 15th, 2008 at 3:12 am
Millions of women all over the world will thank Vivian Liberto-Cash for finally presenting the truth about the real love Johnny Cash held for his sweetheart and first love and first wife in the Christian sense of the word.
The book very realistically describes what happens when a woman is determined to take a man away from a first wife, no matter what hurt is caused to that family, especially children losing out on living their childhood and youth with both parents.
Beautiful young Vivian spent so many years of her life waiting for her man, 3 years while he was serving abroad and many more years during her marriage while he was on the road waiting for her man to come home while she had to manage family life under trying circumstances. It is absolutely cruel to expect someone to bear four children to a man professing his love and then just being expected to move on… Had June Carter really loved Johnny Cash’s children - which you do if you really love a man - she could have helped him without breaking up his family and mended her marriage for the sake of her own daughters.
Anyone who has dealt with alcoholics and drug addicts knows how easy it is to make someone suffering from such addictions dependent on you. Yes, Johnny Cash needed someone to share his life on the road and his music on a daily basis, and Vivian (also from a very musically talented and music-loving family) would have been that ideal companion, only not while her children were that small.
As the man in black himself confessed his second marriage was based on bending over backwards. As his son testified he showered June with money, jewellery and other gifts, especially when the marriage hit severe crisis points and - as his son writes - there were issues of marital fidelity. These facts speak for themselves.
Vivian was never given the chance or support to work at her marriage together with Johnny when drugs and fame entered her husband’s life.
On the other hand, June’s failure to deal with his addictions is painted over with romantic gloss. It is quite obvious that Johnny Cash suffered from many illnesses throughout his life and the pain etched in his face was there inspite of this supposedly perfect marital bliss of his second marriage.
June Carter’s children took precedence as far as they shared the same household with Johnny Cash, but their mother’s interests obviously came first.
Having worked in the medical field I also reject the common story that Johnny Cash died from a broken heart. He was the kind of man who looked life in the face and inspite of all the crises in his life was the strongest survivor. Of course he was gravely hurt by the loss of his day-to-day companion of 35 years, but in my humble opinion he would have lived on for his music his children ( who were at his bedside night and day) and his fans, but cruelly, his illness was stronger.
I think it is extremely important in these times when divorce is commonly accepted that we consider the right of children - no matter what age - to have contact with their parents.
One of my friends just now lost her husband to a second wife. The boys and a girl have lost out on their father’s daily presence and being part of his life in their family home. Inspite of the fact that the man had gone through am irreversible vasectomy after the birth of his third child by his first wife, his second wife has now succeeded in them adopting a baby, although he is paying the bare minimum for the kids of his first marriage.
This is what society calls MOVING ON, and this is what society calls A BAD FIRST MARRIAGE etc. etc….
Once more thank you Vivian for your wonderful book - as a perfect lady you did not want to hurt your husband and his second wife and patiently waited to tell the truth while still expressing so much praise and love for for the father of your children. I think they - even though adults now - have never really deep down allowed themselves to be angry at June out of love and respect for their father. As Vivian wrote in her book, they had been kept at arm’s length through most of their lives.
I am glad we all learned the truth. Thank you Ann for this wonderful book.
Suzanne